Here's a situation that most dating dynamos can relate to; you go out on a first date with a guy, it went great, but then nothing. He said he'd call, but he didn't. You take solace with your friends who reassure you that you didn't do anything wrong. You're left with confusion and frustration and the unanswered question of why. Read on for five reasons why he never called;
1. He didn't feel the chemistry
As hard as this is to hear it happens. You're confident that you have all it takes to make it work with someone before you go out on a date, but once you do you discover that having lots of things in common doesn't make up for a lack of physical attraction. It doesn't mean you lack attraction in general, you just means this particular guy wasn't attracted to you. It happens, so don't let it get you down.
2. You talked negatively about an ex
First date conversation is no time to go into an hour long rant about your creepy ex. Save that conversation until he asks and you've been dating for awhile. Even then be careful what you say. No guys wants to think that you'll be talking like that about him in a year's time.
3. You lied before the date
Hey online daters, please stop posting decade-old pictures of you. Only in your deluded mind do you still look like that. Also, if you aren't a rich heir with a Maserati, please don't tell us you are. What, you think you won't get found out? You will. And then you'll never hear from that hot date again.
4. You didn't at least offer to pay
You might not believe this but chivalry isn't completely dead. Though it's true that most guys are happy to pay for you both when he does the asking out, it's just the right thing to do to offer paying your share. If all you're interested in is finding someone to spoil you then you're excused, and you won't be surprised when he doesn't call, right? For everyone else, this omission could cost you date number two.
5. He didn't sense any interest
You have to be very careful on a first date; you don't know each other yet. And this means that one of you might be making a move that the other could miss entirely if they aren't paying attention. If he hasn't called to go out again, replay the first outing in your minddid he try to hold your hand but then you raised it to hail a cab and forgot? Did he go to put his arm around you right as you ran into an old friend and went to hug them?
If you don't remember then shame on you, you weren't paying attention. On the other hand, if he did hol dyour hand and you didn't feel so much as a tingle, then you probably don't want another date anyway. - 31991
1. He didn't feel the chemistry
As hard as this is to hear it happens. You're confident that you have all it takes to make it work with someone before you go out on a date, but once you do you discover that having lots of things in common doesn't make up for a lack of physical attraction. It doesn't mean you lack attraction in general, you just means this particular guy wasn't attracted to you. It happens, so don't let it get you down.
2. You talked negatively about an ex
First date conversation is no time to go into an hour long rant about your creepy ex. Save that conversation until he asks and you've been dating for awhile. Even then be careful what you say. No guys wants to think that you'll be talking like that about him in a year's time.
3. You lied before the date
Hey online daters, please stop posting decade-old pictures of you. Only in your deluded mind do you still look like that. Also, if you aren't a rich heir with a Maserati, please don't tell us you are. What, you think you won't get found out? You will. And then you'll never hear from that hot date again.
4. You didn't at least offer to pay
You might not believe this but chivalry isn't completely dead. Though it's true that most guys are happy to pay for you both when he does the asking out, it's just the right thing to do to offer paying your share. If all you're interested in is finding someone to spoil you then you're excused, and you won't be surprised when he doesn't call, right? For everyone else, this omission could cost you date number two.
5. He didn't sense any interest
You have to be very careful on a first date; you don't know each other yet. And this means that one of you might be making a move that the other could miss entirely if they aren't paying attention. If he hasn't called to go out again, replay the first outing in your minddid he try to hold your hand but then you raised it to hail a cab and forgot? Did he go to put his arm around you right as you ran into an old friend and went to hug them?
If you don't remember then shame on you, you weren't paying attention. On the other hand, if he did hol dyour hand and you didn't feel so much as a tingle, then you probably don't want another date anyway. - 31991
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