One of the worst verbal blunders to make when talking to a romantic friend is the accidental insult. You know, when you try to say something nice but instead, they take it as a negative and suddenly you're back-tracking, explaining, and apologizing and the whole moment is ruined? Sigh. I hate that. But it happens.
The following are three of the most common "Oh Good Grief" things you might say but probably shouldn't and how you can recover;
1) "You're not like anyone I've ever been out with"
What you meant to say was "you're fantastic!", but what he/she will be thinking is that they don't measure up to your previous partners. Avoid comparing your current sweetie to your past ones even if you mean to put them at the top of the list. Especially at the beginning of a relationship, your guy or gal wants to believe they're the first, not the last in a long string.
When the words have already left your mouth, you need to recover, and fast! Start by reassuring your significant other that he/she has left any others in the dust and follow that up with a couple of specific and sincere compliments. Don't get too wordy and over the top here, you don't want to make things worse. They need to know that there's no one else you'd rather be with.
2) "Size, schmise, it really doesn't matter"
I can't believe you said that! It's just NEVER okay! Having said that, yes, I've said that! And the result was an awkward silence while you try to figure out how to recover from this perceived insult to his manhood.
The most frustrating part of this is that for the most part it's true Unless your man's part is so exceptional it defies belief, size really doesn't matter. But there isn't a man alive who will believe it. If you've made this verbal faux pas, don't dwell on it. Give a quick explanation and move on. And make plans for some special attention later in the evening.
3) "You landed that job? Mind boggling!"
Now, maybe only the most insecure of people would see this as an insult. But hey, a lot of people are insecure and it doesn't make them bad people...you just have to be careful. Make sure a compliment is truly a compliment. Of course they got the job! Hell yes, they got that job! They are going to kick that job's ass and show it who's boss! Those are compliments.
When your response to your partner's good news is one of surprise, they'll think you doubt their ability. It may be annoying, but if you think about it you'll see that their reaction is justified. You're supposed to be their biggest supporter. You shouldn't need to be won over. - 31991
The following are three of the most common "Oh Good Grief" things you might say but probably shouldn't and how you can recover;
1) "You're not like anyone I've ever been out with"
What you meant to say was "you're fantastic!", but what he/she will be thinking is that they don't measure up to your previous partners. Avoid comparing your current sweetie to your past ones even if you mean to put them at the top of the list. Especially at the beginning of a relationship, your guy or gal wants to believe they're the first, not the last in a long string.
When the words have already left your mouth, you need to recover, and fast! Start by reassuring your significant other that he/she has left any others in the dust and follow that up with a couple of specific and sincere compliments. Don't get too wordy and over the top here, you don't want to make things worse. They need to know that there's no one else you'd rather be with.
2) "Size, schmise, it really doesn't matter"
I can't believe you said that! It's just NEVER okay! Having said that, yes, I've said that! And the result was an awkward silence while you try to figure out how to recover from this perceived insult to his manhood.
The most frustrating part of this is that for the most part it's true Unless your man's part is so exceptional it defies belief, size really doesn't matter. But there isn't a man alive who will believe it. If you've made this verbal faux pas, don't dwell on it. Give a quick explanation and move on. And make plans for some special attention later in the evening.
3) "You landed that job? Mind boggling!"
Now, maybe only the most insecure of people would see this as an insult. But hey, a lot of people are insecure and it doesn't make them bad people...you just have to be careful. Make sure a compliment is truly a compliment. Of course they got the job! Hell yes, they got that job! They are going to kick that job's ass and show it who's boss! Those are compliments.
When your response to your partner's good news is one of surprise, they'll think you doubt their ability. It may be annoying, but if you think about it you'll see that their reaction is justified. You're supposed to be their biggest supporter. You shouldn't need to be won over. - 31991
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