If you have a past relationship with a loved one, a breakup can be very painful. However, it is possible for both of you to be back again.
Foremost, find out the actual cause behind the breakup. Be very honest with yourself and determine if both of you, or if one of you is responsible for your separation. Your breakup may be due to extreme arguing and fighting, constant physical and sexual involvement, conflicting goals and values, abuse suffered by one of you, pressures of long-distance relationship, or poor combination of personalities.
The next thing to do is to find out the reason why you want your relationship back. Do you want your ex-lover to return to you because you really loved that person? Or maybe you just like the idea of having a partner. If both of you really loved, respected each other, and are happy being together, restoring your relationship may be a good idea. But if both of you have irreconcilable differences that have caused so much stress in your personal lives, it is better for you to remain separated. Take some time to think about these matters.
If you have chosen to win back your ex-lover, determine if he/she is presently involved in another relationship. If not, be friendly and try to approach that person calmly. Casually invite him/her for group activities such as sports events, parties, and even a stroll with friends. Make it a goal to be friends again with the said person. In the meantime, avoid having serious talks.
During this time, allow yourself to be healed from the hurt caused by the breakup. You may need to focus on social activities so that your self-esteem can be restored. Develop a positive perspective in life and do not linger on the pain of your separation.
If you feel that your friendship with your former flame has already developed into an intimate level, you can open up to him/her in restoring your commitment to each other. Nevertheless, do it calmly and gradually. Tell him/her in a straightforward but considerate way. If you have made past mistakes, feel free to apologize. You should listen and accept his/her your point of view on making another try. Give that person sufficient time to make a choice.
After some time, if he/she is no longer interested in a relationship with you, respect his/her decision. Tell them that you still love them unconditionally and move on with your life. - 31991
Foremost, find out the actual cause behind the breakup. Be very honest with yourself and determine if both of you, or if one of you is responsible for your separation. Your breakup may be due to extreme arguing and fighting, constant physical and sexual involvement, conflicting goals and values, abuse suffered by one of you, pressures of long-distance relationship, or poor combination of personalities.
The next thing to do is to find out the reason why you want your relationship back. Do you want your ex-lover to return to you because you really loved that person? Or maybe you just like the idea of having a partner. If both of you really loved, respected each other, and are happy being together, restoring your relationship may be a good idea. But if both of you have irreconcilable differences that have caused so much stress in your personal lives, it is better for you to remain separated. Take some time to think about these matters.
If you have chosen to win back your ex-lover, determine if he/she is presently involved in another relationship. If not, be friendly and try to approach that person calmly. Casually invite him/her for group activities such as sports events, parties, and even a stroll with friends. Make it a goal to be friends again with the said person. In the meantime, avoid having serious talks.
During this time, allow yourself to be healed from the hurt caused by the breakup. You may need to focus on social activities so that your self-esteem can be restored. Develop a positive perspective in life and do not linger on the pain of your separation.
If you feel that your friendship with your former flame has already developed into an intimate level, you can open up to him/her in restoring your commitment to each other. Nevertheless, do it calmly and gradually. Tell him/her in a straightforward but considerate way. If you have made past mistakes, feel free to apologize. You should listen and accept his/her your point of view on making another try. Give that person sufficient time to make a choice.
After some time, if he/she is no longer interested in a relationship with you, respect his/her decision. Tell them that you still love them unconditionally and move on with your life. - 31991
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