It used to be rather easy to define cheating; if your honey was making out with someone which could be anything from kissing to an full fledged bedroom romp, it was cheating. In other words it was the physicality that counted. These days we're more self aware and couples have started to realize that where someone parks their emotions counts too.
Consequently when one partner of a couple forms a strong emotional or romantic bond with another member of the opposite (or same, depending on your orientation) sex, that can also count as cheating. It's not as easy to define, but it's easy to understand.
It was easier too, way back when, to determine if a partner was unfaithful. Clues like staying late at work, failing to call when promised, sneaking away to make a phone call and getting caught lying. It wasn't too difficult to spot a straying spouse and deliver a good, old fashioned, slap in the face!
Now, with technological advances like text messaging, social networks, internet dating sites and email, it's harder than it used to be to determine with whom, and how, your partner may be "talking" to someone else.
Sure, you could check cell phone call logs or sneak a peak at your sweethearts inbox, but doing so indicates a lack of trust. However, with all the newfangled ways of communicating and engaging in cyber relationships, it's difficult to not speculate, isn't it?
What's more, if you do find out that the person you're seeing is texting someone else all the time, or exchanging flirty (or worse) e-mails, where is the line of what's acceptable anymore? Things are all in such a gray area where this is concerned, that it's feasible for you to call out your lover on these indiscretions and have them actually argue that they aren't doing anything wrong.
Discuss it
We might as well accept that social networks like Facebook and MySpace exist and they're not going to go away anytime soon. That cell phone in your honey's pocket? Same thing. Though communication methods have changed over the years, one thing that hasn't is the fact that trust is still a relationship basic.
If your trust is tested and you start worrying about the kinds of communication your other half is having, you're going to have to do something that is going to be a bit stressful. You're going to have to talk to your partner about what constitutes cheating.
The answer to that is different for every couple. I can't even give you my opinion because it changes from relationship to relationship. The only thing you definitely have to do is be real about what makes you uncomfortable and set the parameters for the two of you specifically.
Keep the focus positive and spend less energy focusing on what could go wrong and more energy on the good stuff. Concentrate on making your relationship the best it can be by keeping each other interested and intrigued. - 31991
Consequently when one partner of a couple forms a strong emotional or romantic bond with another member of the opposite (or same, depending on your orientation) sex, that can also count as cheating. It's not as easy to define, but it's easy to understand.
It was easier too, way back when, to determine if a partner was unfaithful. Clues like staying late at work, failing to call when promised, sneaking away to make a phone call and getting caught lying. It wasn't too difficult to spot a straying spouse and deliver a good, old fashioned, slap in the face!
Now, with technological advances like text messaging, social networks, internet dating sites and email, it's harder than it used to be to determine with whom, and how, your partner may be "talking" to someone else.
Sure, you could check cell phone call logs or sneak a peak at your sweethearts inbox, but doing so indicates a lack of trust. However, with all the newfangled ways of communicating and engaging in cyber relationships, it's difficult to not speculate, isn't it?
What's more, if you do find out that the person you're seeing is texting someone else all the time, or exchanging flirty (or worse) e-mails, where is the line of what's acceptable anymore? Things are all in such a gray area where this is concerned, that it's feasible for you to call out your lover on these indiscretions and have them actually argue that they aren't doing anything wrong.
Discuss it
We might as well accept that social networks like Facebook and MySpace exist and they're not going to go away anytime soon. That cell phone in your honey's pocket? Same thing. Though communication methods have changed over the years, one thing that hasn't is the fact that trust is still a relationship basic.
If your trust is tested and you start worrying about the kinds of communication your other half is having, you're going to have to do something that is going to be a bit stressful. You're going to have to talk to your partner about what constitutes cheating.
The answer to that is different for every couple. I can't even give you my opinion because it changes from relationship to relationship. The only thing you definitely have to do is be real about what makes you uncomfortable and set the parameters for the two of you specifically.
Keep the focus positive and spend less energy focusing on what could go wrong and more energy on the good stuff. Concentrate on making your relationship the best it can be by keeping each other interested and intrigued. - 31991
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