We often begin a mind numbing game of translating someone's every word and movement when we first meet them. We do it all in the hopes of figuring out whether or not they like us.
What I can't figure out is why we do this to ourselves. I'm no exception. As a relationship writer I've spent hours doing relationship self analysis. And I've concluded that fretting about a man's emotions is just too much hard work. It needn't be though.
Save for the man from whom you only receive mixed signals (the fool!), follow your instincts to decide if he's into you or not. You can go back and forth on this for hours, but when all is said and done, it's your instincts that will likely lead you in the right direction.
Having said that, there are probably still some of you out there who want to read into what he says and what he does. To make this "he love me, he loves me not" just a bit easier, here's a little cheat sheet. If it fails, cut to the chase and just ask him.
He talks to his friends about you
When he introduces you to his friends for the very first time, and they already know about you, it's a good sign. Men can't be bothered discussing women with their buddies unless they're very interested.
He calls you just to talk
I could write a book about men who believe they shouldn't call a woman the day after their date. It's such an old and out dated notion.
You know just as well as I do that if he doesn't call the next day, it does not mean that he is not interested in you. But, if his next call comes at 11:30 on Friday night, this guy is more ass than class. If that's what you want, then go for it. But a booty call isn't likely someone who will be interested in meeting your parents. Those calls aside, if he calls within a week of your date, he's interested.
He's really listening
Men who are taken with someone typically want to be a little sweet and romantic. And what's the best way to do something out of the way and special for his new lady? Knowing things about her. You have to know the facts before you can plan your romantic assault. At least, I hope most men are doing this, otherwise their attempts at romantic gestures will be generic and boring. - 31991
What I can't figure out is why we do this to ourselves. I'm no exception. As a relationship writer I've spent hours doing relationship self analysis. And I've concluded that fretting about a man's emotions is just too much hard work. It needn't be though.
Save for the man from whom you only receive mixed signals (the fool!), follow your instincts to decide if he's into you or not. You can go back and forth on this for hours, but when all is said and done, it's your instincts that will likely lead you in the right direction.
Having said that, there are probably still some of you out there who want to read into what he says and what he does. To make this "he love me, he loves me not" just a bit easier, here's a little cheat sheet. If it fails, cut to the chase and just ask him.
He talks to his friends about you
When he introduces you to his friends for the very first time, and they already know about you, it's a good sign. Men can't be bothered discussing women with their buddies unless they're very interested.
He calls you just to talk
I could write a book about men who believe they shouldn't call a woman the day after their date. It's such an old and out dated notion.
You know just as well as I do that if he doesn't call the next day, it does not mean that he is not interested in you. But, if his next call comes at 11:30 on Friday night, this guy is more ass than class. If that's what you want, then go for it. But a booty call isn't likely someone who will be interested in meeting your parents. Those calls aside, if he calls within a week of your date, he's interested.
He's really listening
Men who are taken with someone typically want to be a little sweet and romantic. And what's the best way to do something out of the way and special for his new lady? Knowing things about her. You have to know the facts before you can plan your romantic assault. At least, I hope most men are doing this, otherwise their attempts at romantic gestures will be generic and boring. - 31991
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