Even the most charmed of couples can go through phases of being not so great. Whether it's a major, known issue, or you're just a bit out of sorts with each other for awhile, no relationship is immune. The good news is, it doesn't mean the end. And it doesn't mean things won't get back to good.
What's not so good is that while you're in the middle of a quarrelsome twosome it can be very difficult to look ahead to the time when things will be better. It can also lead us to do some crazy things in the hopes of turning our relationship around to smoother waters.
I get it. I've been there. I'm serious. And to prove it, here is my handy little sampling of save-the-relationship maneuvers that either I've tried or have had tried on me...and please remember that these are warnings, not suggestions! Hint: I did not do the baby thing. Promise.
Go for a Baby
Seriously? I have to say this? Apparently, I do. Because people are still doing the whole punching-holes-in-condoms or I-swear-I'm-on-birth-control thing and tricking their significant other into an "accidental" pregnancy. And it's not just the ladies...men do this too. A thousand shades of wrong, folks.
Privacy invasion
So his cell phone is sitting right there, and he's nowhere to be found. You're thinking that a quick peek at his text messages and email will give you all the insight you need into fixing whatever is wrong. Right? Wrong!! You're delusional if you think that possible law breaking, not to mention a gross invasion of privacy will help you fix your relationship. What is will get you is a break up.
Checking a lover's email, Facebook, text messages...all straight ways to freaking yourself out. Because either you find something that is incriminating against him/her and then you can't use it against them (illegally obtained evidence is inadmissible in court, babies) or you find nothing and you're just a snoop. Lose/Lose.
Move in with each other
This kind of goes along with the whole baby thing. Couples have this strange, habitual impulse to move a relationship forward when trouble comes to town. Although completely illogical, I suppose it's also a completely natural response; the idea of facing your problems (and possible the end of your relationship) is such a downer.
So why not move in together instead?! It gives you an exciting diversion and the thrill and illusory romance of embarking on cohabitation is usually enough to distract the two of you from what was causing problems. But hey! Whisper...those problems? They'll be back. Only this time, you're sharing a lease. Good job further complicating things. - 31991
What's not so good is that while you're in the middle of a quarrelsome twosome it can be very difficult to look ahead to the time when things will be better. It can also lead us to do some crazy things in the hopes of turning our relationship around to smoother waters.
I get it. I've been there. I'm serious. And to prove it, here is my handy little sampling of save-the-relationship maneuvers that either I've tried or have had tried on me...and please remember that these are warnings, not suggestions! Hint: I did not do the baby thing. Promise.
Go for a Baby
Seriously? I have to say this? Apparently, I do. Because people are still doing the whole punching-holes-in-condoms or I-swear-I'm-on-birth-control thing and tricking their significant other into an "accidental" pregnancy. And it's not just the ladies...men do this too. A thousand shades of wrong, folks.
Privacy invasion
So his cell phone is sitting right there, and he's nowhere to be found. You're thinking that a quick peek at his text messages and email will give you all the insight you need into fixing whatever is wrong. Right? Wrong!! You're delusional if you think that possible law breaking, not to mention a gross invasion of privacy will help you fix your relationship. What is will get you is a break up.
Checking a lover's email, Facebook, text messages...all straight ways to freaking yourself out. Because either you find something that is incriminating against him/her and then you can't use it against them (illegally obtained evidence is inadmissible in court, babies) or you find nothing and you're just a snoop. Lose/Lose.
Move in with each other
This kind of goes along with the whole baby thing. Couples have this strange, habitual impulse to move a relationship forward when trouble comes to town. Although completely illogical, I suppose it's also a completely natural response; the idea of facing your problems (and possible the end of your relationship) is such a downer.
So why not move in together instead?! It gives you an exciting diversion and the thrill and illusory romance of embarking on cohabitation is usually enough to distract the two of you from what was causing problems. But hey! Whisper...those problems? They'll be back. Only this time, you're sharing a lease. Good job further complicating things. - 31991
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