When recently coaching a friend on an upcoming job interview, I realized that these scary meetings are very much like first dates. A lot of the anxiety is the same, as is your desire to make a dynamite first impression. Unfortunately, some of the mistakes are the same as well. Maybe you never thought about it like this, but the reason you didn't get that job you were amazingly qualified for could be the same reason you didn't get asked out for a second date by that adorable dude you went out with a few weeks ago.
Trash-talking the ex
It doesn't matter whether you're discussing an ex boyfriend or a former boss, if you bad mouth either one personally or professionally it will reflect badly on you. It's just never a flattering thing to do when you want to portray yourself in a good light.
In the job interview, going on about what a dictator your previous boss was will only make the interviewer wonder what the other side of the story is. And chances are you won't be hired because you had a major conflict in the workplace.
If it's a date? Same rules apply. If you go on and on about how horrible of a person your ex-lover is, the new person is going to think, "that could be me she's talking about one day". Guaranteed.
Runaway Mouth
There's a fine line between being confident and open enough to present yourself in a good light and totally compromising the conversation. Because not only do you want them to know all of the best things about you but you also need to let them tell you about the job/company/himself so you can decide as well if this is a job/relationship you might want to be a part of.
Runaway Mouth; Again
After a first date that induced butterflies or a job interview that inspired confidence, it's all you can do to keep from jumping onto Facebook and letting the world know. Showing that restraint could save you a heap of future embarrassment.
If you think your potential new boss/boyfriend won't find out about you jumping the gun in a public way, you're mistaken. The internet is not a safe place, my friends. It's safer for you, them, and everyone involved to keep mum on all budding professional and personal relationships until you have some solid good news to share.
There was something in your teeth
Or maybe on your shirt. Perhaps you had on just a tad too much cologne. It could have been any one of a hundred different little details. As unfair as it may be, some things just get under someone else's skin and they'll derail a first meeting fast. - 31991
Trash-talking the ex
It doesn't matter whether you're discussing an ex boyfriend or a former boss, if you bad mouth either one personally or professionally it will reflect badly on you. It's just never a flattering thing to do when you want to portray yourself in a good light.
In the job interview, going on about what a dictator your previous boss was will only make the interviewer wonder what the other side of the story is. And chances are you won't be hired because you had a major conflict in the workplace.
If it's a date? Same rules apply. If you go on and on about how horrible of a person your ex-lover is, the new person is going to think, "that could be me she's talking about one day". Guaranteed.
Runaway Mouth
There's a fine line between being confident and open enough to present yourself in a good light and totally compromising the conversation. Because not only do you want them to know all of the best things about you but you also need to let them tell you about the job/company/himself so you can decide as well if this is a job/relationship you might want to be a part of.
Runaway Mouth; Again
After a first date that induced butterflies or a job interview that inspired confidence, it's all you can do to keep from jumping onto Facebook and letting the world know. Showing that restraint could save you a heap of future embarrassment.
If you think your potential new boss/boyfriend won't find out about you jumping the gun in a public way, you're mistaken. The internet is not a safe place, my friends. It's safer for you, them, and everyone involved to keep mum on all budding professional and personal relationships until you have some solid good news to share.
There was something in your teeth
Or maybe on your shirt. Perhaps you had on just a tad too much cologne. It could have been any one of a hundred different little details. As unfair as it may be, some things just get under someone else's skin and they'll derail a first meeting fast. - 31991
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