Ladies, has this ever happened to you? You have a girlfriend, who, time after time, bails on your getting together because she received an invitation from a guy. After you'd already made plans. Because you're such a good friend, you murmur approvingly and say you understand.
But deep down, you're resentful and you're starting to feel neglected. Well guess what? Men don't break their plans with other men to spend an evening with you. Think about that before doing cancelling your night out with the girls to spend it with a guy. In all honesty, if he cares about you at all, he'd tell you to go out and enjoy yourself and make a suggestions for another time.
There is a popular policy in business where it's "first come, first served." Why can't it be that way in relationships? If the relationship is strong enough, being with friends every now and then should not tear you apart. It may actually make it stronger because it shows you have a life outside of him. Friends should be just as important as new partner and more than likely you probably have known your friends longer.
Most women will say that you shouldn't let friends come between you and a guy. The flip side of this is that you shouldn't let a guy, specifically your guy, come between you and your friends. Unfortunately, we've all known a woman who starts dating, drops her friends by the wayside and becomes totally involved with her new beau.
This new guy becomes their whole life. Phone calls to friends become a thing of the past. Your chats are no longer needed as she thinks this new man is all she needs. Her work may suffer as well as other parts of her personal life. And you're thinking "I would never let that happen to me", but it's often not a conscientious decision.
Love should complement you, not make you brain dead and certainly not make you lose your job or your friends. Remember if and when the courtship is over, you will need them both, especially the latter. The people you did not have time for will be the same people that you will be calling the most to pour your heart out, and to seek some type of counsel.
Though your friends may not say it to your face, they likely want to but didn't for fear of ruining what is left of your friendship. Your most caring friends will keep their mouth shut and give you a much needed hug while you pour out your sob story. Which, incidentally, was entirely of your own making.
If your guy doesn't understand that you have a life outside of him, which includes your friends, then you simply don't need him in your life. A women needn't lose her identity to fall in love and become part of a couple. - 31991
But deep down, you're resentful and you're starting to feel neglected. Well guess what? Men don't break their plans with other men to spend an evening with you. Think about that before doing cancelling your night out with the girls to spend it with a guy. In all honesty, if he cares about you at all, he'd tell you to go out and enjoy yourself and make a suggestions for another time.
There is a popular policy in business where it's "first come, first served." Why can't it be that way in relationships? If the relationship is strong enough, being with friends every now and then should not tear you apart. It may actually make it stronger because it shows you have a life outside of him. Friends should be just as important as new partner and more than likely you probably have known your friends longer.
Most women will say that you shouldn't let friends come between you and a guy. The flip side of this is that you shouldn't let a guy, specifically your guy, come between you and your friends. Unfortunately, we've all known a woman who starts dating, drops her friends by the wayside and becomes totally involved with her new beau.
This new guy becomes their whole life. Phone calls to friends become a thing of the past. Your chats are no longer needed as she thinks this new man is all she needs. Her work may suffer as well as other parts of her personal life. And you're thinking "I would never let that happen to me", but it's often not a conscientious decision.
Love should complement you, not make you brain dead and certainly not make you lose your job or your friends. Remember if and when the courtship is over, you will need them both, especially the latter. The people you did not have time for will be the same people that you will be calling the most to pour your heart out, and to seek some type of counsel.
Though your friends may not say it to your face, they likely want to but didn't for fear of ruining what is left of your friendship. Your most caring friends will keep their mouth shut and give you a much needed hug while you pour out your sob story. Which, incidentally, was entirely of your own making.
If your guy doesn't understand that you have a life outside of him, which includes your friends, then you simply don't need him in your life. A women needn't lose her identity to fall in love and become part of a couple. - 31991
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