I'm all about standing your ground for what you think is best for you. I'm all about making decisions for your life and not always yielding to what your partner thinks is best. But regardless of how kick-ass and self-efficient you are about your life, when you make the decision to be in a serious relationship or marriage with another person, there are certain decisions that now have an effect on their lives as well.
Discussing these things with your partner before diving in (or cutting loose, or going crazy, or whatever it is you're about to do) doesn't make you weak and co-dependent; it makes you a smart, considerate person who is concerned about the health of their relationship, rather than being completely self-serving.
Here are a few things you should definitely consult your sweetie about before going forward with:
Birth control
Granted, a woman's body is her own, but there are two of you in this relationship, so the decisions you make about your body will affect your partner too. Starting or stopping birth control or choosing a permanent solution like having your tubes tied should all be discussed with your partner.
Leftover food
Some people seem to keep leftovers until they qualify for scientific experiments. But the minute you chucked it all in the garbage, that's when they decide they want to finish it. It's one of life's mysteries! So play it safe and always ask before throwing out leftovers.
Major purchases
Even if your last name is Rockefeller or Hilton, running your plans for big ticket items like cars, houses and boats past your significant other is just good relationship strategy.
Adopting an animal or a child
Okay, that little puppy you saw at the pet store when you went to buy fish food is cute what with that heart breaking little face and all. I know how tempting that can be. And that last time you were shooting that movie and your partner was looking after the other kids and you saw that orphan that just melted your heart? Also tempting. But resist you must. Adding to your family should only be done with your partner's okay.
Getting a tattoo
With their name on it. Enough said.
Deleting the Tivo recordings
Thinking that he or she watched the most recent episode of Curb Your Enthusiasm and knowing it are two different things. Do this and you're on the fast track to World War III. - 31991
Discussing these things with your partner before diving in (or cutting loose, or going crazy, or whatever it is you're about to do) doesn't make you weak and co-dependent; it makes you a smart, considerate person who is concerned about the health of their relationship, rather than being completely self-serving.
Here are a few things you should definitely consult your sweetie about before going forward with:
Birth control
Granted, a woman's body is her own, but there are two of you in this relationship, so the decisions you make about your body will affect your partner too. Starting or stopping birth control or choosing a permanent solution like having your tubes tied should all be discussed with your partner.
Leftover food
Some people seem to keep leftovers until they qualify for scientific experiments. But the minute you chucked it all in the garbage, that's when they decide they want to finish it. It's one of life's mysteries! So play it safe and always ask before throwing out leftovers.
Major purchases
Even if your last name is Rockefeller or Hilton, running your plans for big ticket items like cars, houses and boats past your significant other is just good relationship strategy.
Adopting an animal or a child
Okay, that little puppy you saw at the pet store when you went to buy fish food is cute what with that heart breaking little face and all. I know how tempting that can be. And that last time you were shooting that movie and your partner was looking after the other kids and you saw that orphan that just melted your heart? Also tempting. But resist you must. Adding to your family should only be done with your partner's okay.
Getting a tattoo
With their name on it. Enough said.
Deleting the Tivo recordings
Thinking that he or she watched the most recent episode of Curb Your Enthusiasm and knowing it are two different things. Do this and you're on the fast track to World War III. - 31991
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