Though men like to believe that only the fairer sex is filled with insecurities, neurosis and other unreasonable relationship behavior, here's a clue; they're not. Men make their own mistakes when it comes to dating. Even though you think you're totally cool, and super laid back (which in reality translates to I don't do laundry very often and I always leave the toilet seat up), you have hang-ups of your own.
Whether we're your girlfriend, your date or your best gal pal, we've stood by and watched you do it all. Now it's time for some practical advice about what you're doing wrong. And after you read this you're never going to do them again, right?
1. Paying more attention to the TV than your serious conversation
Same goes for playing online poker (or anything else online), video games, texting; pretty much anything that diverts your attention from the conversation you're having. It's rude, it's obnoxious and it makes us feel worthless, so cut it out. Simply giving your lady friend your undivided attention is going to get you pretty far.
2. Lying about your relationship status to yourself and others
Too many men avoid using the word "boyfriend" altogether in the same way that women tend to use it too soon. If you know what kind of relationship you want, and it's not a monogamous one, then more power to you; but you need to be honest about it.
If you're spending lots of time with one chick, have had sleepovers, she's met your buddies and maybe you've met hers and you aren't currently doing these things with other people; you have a girlfriend. Sorry. If you don't like it, change it.
3. Questioning the purpose of flowers
Or other little things that women like that seem really illogical to you. Yes, we know flowers will die in a few days and that, in principle, spending money on them is silly. But we love them. And more than that, we love that you got them for us. And even more than that, don't bring reason into the arena of small emotional pleasures.
Your girl likes what she likes and you should be less concerned with breaking down the why and focusing more on the how as in how it makes her feel and how it makes you look awesome.
4. Double standards
I've got to say, men are worse about this than women. I'm not one for making gross over-generalizations, but this is truth. You don't want your girl so much as looking at another dude when you're out but if she shows the slightest sign of jealousy over your all out flirt-fest with a hot bartenders, you rant about how it didn't mean anything and you still need to be allowed to have a conversation and blah blah blah. We know. We get it. But if you want, you've got to give. That's all we're saying. - 31991
Whether we're your girlfriend, your date or your best gal pal, we've stood by and watched you do it all. Now it's time for some practical advice about what you're doing wrong. And after you read this you're never going to do them again, right?
1. Paying more attention to the TV than your serious conversation
Same goes for playing online poker (or anything else online), video games, texting; pretty much anything that diverts your attention from the conversation you're having. It's rude, it's obnoxious and it makes us feel worthless, so cut it out. Simply giving your lady friend your undivided attention is going to get you pretty far.
2. Lying about your relationship status to yourself and others
Too many men avoid using the word "boyfriend" altogether in the same way that women tend to use it too soon. If you know what kind of relationship you want, and it's not a monogamous one, then more power to you; but you need to be honest about it.
If you're spending lots of time with one chick, have had sleepovers, she's met your buddies and maybe you've met hers and you aren't currently doing these things with other people; you have a girlfriend. Sorry. If you don't like it, change it.
3. Questioning the purpose of flowers
Or other little things that women like that seem really illogical to you. Yes, we know flowers will die in a few days and that, in principle, spending money on them is silly. But we love them. And more than that, we love that you got them for us. And even more than that, don't bring reason into the arena of small emotional pleasures.
Your girl likes what she likes and you should be less concerned with breaking down the why and focusing more on the how as in how it makes her feel and how it makes you look awesome.
4. Double standards
I've got to say, men are worse about this than women. I'm not one for making gross over-generalizations, but this is truth. You don't want your girl so much as looking at another dude when you're out but if she shows the slightest sign of jealousy over your all out flirt-fest with a hot bartenders, you rant about how it didn't mean anything and you still need to be allowed to have a conversation and blah blah blah. We know. We get it. But if you want, you've got to give. That's all we're saying. - 31991
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