Keeping The Conversation Going

By Matt Fuller

One of the greatest advantages of dating online is that we've already had the chance to chat before we've met face-to-face. We already have an idea what interests this person and maybe what they've done with their lives.

However online dating can also have the affect of giving a false impression of someone we have just met online, as often times a real life date turns out to be much different than first perceived online.

You will be well served to take advantage of noting down your online conversation in preparation for your first offline date. You certainly have an advantage by gaining valuable insight into important topics concerning your new online date which will well prepare you for the real thing.

It's hard enough getting to know someone first up, so arrange your first date somewhere more interesting than the standard dinner and movie typical date. Go for a picnic by the river, allow nature to help you bond and overcome your shyness in peaceful surroundings.

So picking the venue for your first date is important, especially if you feel you won't win any awards for conversation starters.

Having met online first is a great way to use 'saved up' information to fall back on in times of the conversation flow drying up. Show interest in how you address their questions, and use their questions as a cue to build on other conversation topics.

Be forthcoming with who you are as a person, we all love when someone opens up to us, especially on a date when we are trying our best to assess the other persons characteristics - make it easy for your date, show them who you really are.

Keep the topics of conversation light hearted and on mutual ground. Whilst it's great to have personal views and desires, starting a debate about the politics of current world news is not the best way to offer a worthy first impression.

When you're talking, end your comments by asking what you're date thinks on the matter - in other words, draw them in. Avoid monopolizing the talk and ask open ended questions.

Bonny Albo, a writer who has focused on online dating matters, sums up the art of conversation with these words: "Concentrate on adopting your own experiences and interweaving them in with the other individuals answers. By doing so you will be formulating a connection with the individual, producing hooks of information with which to initiate a conversation at a future moment. - 31991

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