Wading Back Into The Dating Pool

By Astrid Engels

When you end a long term relationship it can take awhile before you decide to start dating again. Once you do so, you may need a strategy. Will you ask your friends to get you together with someone, hit the bar scene, or maybe sign up for an internet dating service?

Most people who come out of a long term relationship are not ready to start dating right away. They usually take some time away from dating to gather their thoughts. While taking a break, you might want to give some thought to how you're going to get back into the social scene.

Keep the following tips handy for such time as you're ready to get back into the dating scene;

1. Be willing to try something new so that you may meet new people at places that you perhaps excluded in the past. If you have never been to a certain venue or new neighborhood, why not take a chance and experience something new. Go to some of the political rallies, free concerts and free networking events. It is a great place to meet singles and support something that you believe in. Right away you and the person that you meet have one thing in common.

2. You have nothing to lose but a few hours by agreeing to go on a blind date. If a friend, a family member or a co-worker suggest setting you upon a blind date with this terrific guy/gal that they know, let them! Sometimes others know what you need, even if you don't.

3. Faith draws people together. No matter what your faith, consider attending religious services. You'd be surprised at the number of single people there! Instead of just attending services, become an active participant by mentoring kids, or attending a study group.

4. Put your volunteer hat on and spend some time at the local food bank or other charitable organization. Given the economic times, the less fortunate are growing in numbers. You'll meet new people and feel good about doing so.

5. If you like to take chances, frequent the personal ads on dating sites. If you happen to set up a date using this medium, make sure you meet them in a public place!

6. Go out with a group of friends or co-workers and have a good time. This can boost your confidence and people are attracted to confident people. For instance: You and a few co-workers may go out after work for Happy Hour. Note: You always seem to find something when you're not looking for it. This also applies in love.

Starting to date again is risky, but it can also be fun and adventurous. A broken heart yesterday can mean that paradise is just around the corner. You may go to a couple of wrong corners first before you get to the right one, but when you get to the right corner, it will be worth it. - 31991

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